Manifesting Is Doing The Hard Work Til You Bring Something to Life

Manifesting is doing what you need to in order to make your goals become reality. It’s not always instantaneous. In fact, most times it takes a while to manifest your dreams into actuality. That’s because many things aren’t worth it when they come easy. As much as most of us like to pray for an easier life, we wouldn’t be where we are if we hadn’t worked hard and kept our focus. Getting thrown a bone more often would be nice, no lies, but would we take pride in our accomplishments if we didn’t work our asses off to obtain them?

Sometimes manifesting is more swift and you receive a small gift out of the blue. Say you really want a coffee shop coffee, but you’re trying to be more mindful about the money you spend, (Van goals!) so you haven’t had one in a while & LYD comes out of nowhere to plan a coffee date on her. Coffee turned into her getting us McDonald’s. Eating out is another thing I am trying to avoid, so I was grateful either way. Getting to see her and taking a moment out of our busy days to just catch up is always going to be dear to my heart. I cherish her existence in my life & her key role as one of my people. However, I do the work to keep the relationships with my people strong & they do too, that’s why they’re a part of my tribe.

On my manifesting journey, I’ve realized that asking the Universe for something you really want seems to solidify better when you step outside frequently. Take time to be out in nature, get off the phone, clear your mind so that you know what you are asking for and be thankful for what you receive. Don’t forget to give yourself applause for all the hard work you’ve done to make something happen. Look back a year from now, five years, ten years, and take notice of the things that you didn’t have back then that you do now. Pay attention to the things you asked for and have received through your own tenacity.

A lesson I’ve learned and I’m currently learning is to not let your expectations of what could be ruin what actually is, with people, experiences, & life. There are so many times where I have a picture in my head of how I want something to go and you would think by now that I would be a little more carefree and relaxed about just letting things happen, but I’m not. Sometimes, I ruin my own time by trying to have everything perfect, or just how I pictured it. I’m consciously trying to take more steps back and just enjoy the moment or being grateful for the actual memories that are building, instead of the made-up version in my crazy brain.

I used to say “only dead fish go with the flow,” a quote that resonated with me, but now I’m not sure I agree completely. Sometimes the tide is the most beautiful movement of circumstances that lead to a destiny that even you couldn’t imagine. Life is full of wonder if you just open your eyes. Be as appreciative of the little things as you are of the big things because they will be what you remember most. Keep doing the hard work and don’t give up on your dreams, but take time for all of the other things you need to do as well. Don’t work so hard on your career, that you miss your child growing up. Don’t be so self-absorbed that you don’t build relationships with the people you care about. Don’t spend so much time binge-watching a series that you forget to step out & try new things.

Life is filled with quirky little mishaps or misadventures. Get used to being happy with the moment, in the moment, even if it’s not what you planned. It’s ok if something goes awry, sometimes that makes the best stories. Don’t let one little pitfall, or even a big one, stop you from manifesting your ultimate reality. Keep the people around that support you through the hardships & frustrations just as much as the celebrations.

In some instances, going with the flow isn’t a good thing. Don’t live life just being a robot, not asking questions and not looking deeper when you need to. Don’t be afraid to stand out from the crowd because I can promise you that you’re amazing the way you are. As long as you stay genuine and persistent, you will get the life that you’re dreaming of. Don’t forget your people along the way, don’t forget those who’ve helped build your confidence and gave you the strength to reach your destiny.

Sometimes things don’t turn out the way that you want, but the way that you need. A while ago, I was “seeing” a guy & the majority of the time we “hung out” he was just throwing up red flags that I decided to ignore. Before things went downhill, I just kept having this feeling in my gut that he was being shady. I would catch him talking/looking at other girl’s pictures while I was right there! I wasn’t trying to look, but he wasn’t trying to hide it either. FWB or not, that’s fucking disrespectful. One morning after I ended up staying the night, I left my sexy underwear knowing that either someone else would find it, or he’d think dirty thoughts of me. I was hoping it would be the dirty thoughts. Fast forward a few days and the little boy who didn’t want to be in a relationship is now FB official with the girl that I had a gut feeling about, even after he told me he wasn’t talking to anyone.

I wasted my sexy panties for this fool?! No more.

He had no motivation to do better or be better. He didn’t want to do things outside of his house or with me often. He was rarely supportive of me. Calling me pretty or beautiful when he wasn’t trying to get laid was practically unheard of. I knew the last time we did shrooms together that he was trying to confine me when I just need to be able to be free. I was his dirty little secret. I knew deep down it wouldn’t work because we didn’t want the same things, but I REALLY wanted it to work because we did mesh really well together in a few ways. Things never work out for me when it comes to men and I know why. I put more focus on them than I should & I allow the distractions to keep me from moving forward.

Manifesting the right guy is not occupying your time with the wrong guy.

All of the time I’ve spent with the wrong guys, allowing the distraction to keep me from persevering in my own life and what do I have to show for it? Always being the “single” friend who doesn’t have a date to game night or last-minute live music. I have been hauled backward by a lot of guys who said “forever,” but didn’t mean it. My downfall is emotionally unavailable guys that I know better than to fall for, but I do anyway.

On Mabon, I had a tarot reading and was told that I get in my own way and I keep myself from my own success. It’s absolutely true. I allow my focus to sway because I want to do something less productive instead. I make excuses for myself when I’m not actively doing better because “I’m tired,” “work was tough” or “I’ve had a hard day.” It’s always something and I’m tasking myself more and more to choose productive instead of lazy. Yes, I allow myself to be lazy, but I’m better at balancing the two. I can still have a chill night, but I don’t have to watch TV all of the time. I don’t NEED to answer that text right away or mindlessly scroll through FB for a lot longer than I should.

Manifesting is receiving and believing that you will get what you desire, but it is also showing up and being present, consciously making better decisions, & being mindful every day.

I am so grateful that you’ve decided to read my blog. Thank you for your time. Don’t ever forget that your manifesting starts with you.

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